Single One Year

Remarkably, it has been one year plus a couple of months since I've been in any romantic relationship. After divorce I dated sporadically until I realized nothing would replace the life that ended with my divorce.

So I got out of dating and worrying about dating and worked hard to keep myself out, focused on me and my goals, actions, feelings, family, on now, on relationship grist I've harvested from a six year marriage and three or four short-lived relationships before and after it.

Now I am in such a different, better place in my life. It's my life, for one, my stuff, my problems, my solutions, my life to live as I choose until I am dead. No one else is cuddling me at night (except my two cats) but neither is anyone else in my life inhibiting my freedom, demanding my attention or disappointed in my inability to provide happiness and security for them.

So I think it's good. It may not last. But it is good, has been good. I owe gratitude to the universe. I am fortunate in so many ways. I hope you are too.

Back from India

I realized a goal and desire I've had for a long time, which was to travel to India and experience the culture and people and land.

For the past few years I had been hoping and planning a trip to India - several near opportunities and sensible plans were considered. The two most stubborn obstacles were constraints on money and time away from work. I figured all along that the most I could possibly hope to do would be three weeks in India, using all of my vacation time and a rather large budget.

So I wound up being able to go through my job and career. My employer happened to have a need for someone to go to India to work with the technical team there. I came along to fill another role onshore, in America, but soon became aware of the opportunity to work in India. I made sure my boss knew I was willing and interested. A few months later I was on a plane, in business class no less, on an international flight from Boston, USA to Hyderabad, India via Frankfurt, Germany.

I wound up staying in India not for three weeks, but three months.